Learning All the Time

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The essence of John Holt's insight into learning and small children is captured in Learning All The Time. This delightful book by the influential author of How Children Fail and How Children Learn shows how children learn to read, write, and count in their everyday life at home and how adults can respect and encourage this wonderful process. For human beings, he reminds us, learning is as natural as breathing. John Holt's wit, his gentle wisdom, and his infectious love of little children bring joy to parent and teacher alike.

From the book:

“When I talk with parents abut the dangers of unwanted help, they will often ask how to tell the difference between being responsive and being intrusive. I usually suggest that they let their children tell them the difference. Since the children won't do it with words, probably, this means being alert to their signals.

The most difficult challenge is not to have hurt feelings when they send a ‘leave me alone, let me do it’ signal. If children send such a signal, parents needn't apologize or make a big thing of it; they can just say, ‘Sure,’ and go on about their business.”

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The essence of John Holt's insight into learning and small children is captured in Learning All The Time. This delightful book by the influential author of How Children Fail and How Children Learn shows how children learn to read, write, and count in their everyday life at home and how adults can respect and encourage this wonderful process. For human beings, he reminds us, learning is as natural as breathing. John Holt's wit, his gentle wisdom, and his infectious love of little children bring joy to parent and teacher alike.

From the book:

“When I talk with parents abut the dangers of unwanted help, they will often ask how to tell the difference between being responsive and being intrusive. I usually suggest that they let their children tell them the difference. Since the children won't do it with words, probably, this means being alert to their signals.

The most difficult challenge is not to have hurt feelings when they send a ‘leave me alone, let me do it’ signal. If children send such a signal, parents needn't apologize or make a big thing of it; they can just say, ‘Sure,’ and go on about their business.”

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  • (Addison-Wesley 1989; Perseus, 1990)

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    A Fine Line

    When I talk with parents abut the dangers of unwanted help, they will often ask how to tell the difference between being responsive and being intrustive. I usually suggest that they let their children tell them the difference. Since the children won't do it with words, probably, this means being alert to their signals. The most difficult challenge is not to have hurt feelings when they send a "leave me alone, let me do it" signal. If children send such a signal, parents needn't apologize or make a big thing of it; they can just say, "Sure," and go on about their business.

    On the whole, if we don't punish children for the messages they send us, or make them feel guilty about sending us such messages, they can be relied on to send as many messages as are needed. If we don't hear their first message, they will send a second. There's no need to get complicated or anxious about this; kids are good communicators …

    … If parents look hurt of disappointed when their suggestions are not eagerly welcomed, after a while the child will begin to think, "When Dad or Mom suggests something, I'd better do it, or otherwise they'll feel bad." Using these feelings, or the fear of these feelings, to get children to do what we want is much worse than giving plain old-fashioned commands. if parents themselves can't stop from being hurt when their suggestions are turned down, it is better for them to stop making them.

    Even if children do go along with suggestions for games, it's better not to make too many of them. If we're always thinking up neat things for the kids to do, they won't have enough time to think up things of their own. Beyond that, they may get the idea that all good ideas come from adults, and so become dependent on us. It's nice to entertain children some of the time, but it wouldn't make any sense to get ourselves out of the full-time teaching business only to put ourselves into the full-time entertainment business. We have things of our own to do. So, even with good ideas, moderation is important.